As organisations continue to navigate complexity, investing in the development of emerging leaders is no longer optional — it’s essential. Early talent development not only builds internal capability but significantly enhances attraction and retention. Among the most powerful tools in this endeavour is executive coaching. But coaching effectiveness isn’t one-size-fits-all. In fact, developmental psychology and coaching science suggest that the impact of coaching is strongly influenced by a leader’s stage of life and career maturity.
The Psychology of Growing Leaders
Drawing from classic lifespan development theory — notably Erik Erikson’s psychosocial stages and Levinson’s life structure theory — we know that adults continue to mature well into midlife and beyond. During their 30s, many individuals are in the “building phase,” establishing their professional identity and striving to meet societal expectations. Here, there is often a focus on performance, achievement, and validation from others.
By their 40s, however, there is a cognitive and emotional shift. Leaders begin to transition from achievement to meaning-making — they move from “doing” to “being.” They become more introspective, more attuned to nuance, and more willing to explore their internal world. This shift influences not just how they lead, but also how they engage in coaching.
Coaching Younger Executives: Structure and Support
Research from Tamir and Finfer (Leadership Excellence Consulting) highlighted a key coaching insight: younger executives — often high potentials in their 30s — benefit from directive, concrete coaching. This group tends to:
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Seek rules and techniques over deep self-reflection
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Respond well to structured feedback and behavioural modeling
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View coaching as a reward, not a necessity
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Struggle with the ambiguity and vulnerability that deeper self-assessment requires
From a behavioural science perspective, this makes sense. According to Bandura’s Social Cognitive Theory, self-efficacy — the belief in one’s ability to succeed — is still forming during early career stages. As such, coaching at this stage should focus on building confidence through clear, attainable goals and behavioural reinforcement.
Coaching Older Executives: Insight and Reflection
By contrast, executives in their 40s and 50s are typically more open to introspection. They want to know why they behave as they do and are often motivated by intrinsic goals like purpose, legacy, and transformation. Theories like Mezirow’s Transformative Learning Theory suggest that adults become capable of deep psychological growth when they confront disorienting dilemmas — a dynamic often triggered by coaching.
Older executives tend to:
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Crave insight, not just action steps
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Appreciate nuance and paradox
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Engage more fully in dialogue and mutual discovery
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Embrace the coach as a thinking partner, not just an expert
This group is often ready for vertical development — not just acquiring new skills, but changing how they think.
Why Developmental Tailoring Matters
A key challenge in coaching younger leaders lies in their prior reinforcement history. Those identified early as “high potentials” often carry a strong self-narrative of competence. While this belief is beneficial for confidence, it can become a barrier to behavioural flexibility. They may resist feedback that challenges their identity, viewing it as a threat rather than an opportunity.
Furthermore, younger executives may view human behaviour in dichotomies — right vs. wrong, best vs. worst. They often miss subtle social cues or resist ambiguity. This makes it crucial for coaches to:
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Use behavioural anchors and “if-then” scenarios
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Provide structured reflection exercises
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Encourage experimentation and safe failure
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Normalise discomfort as part of the growth journey
The Steople Difference: Grounded in Psychology, Powered by Data
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What You Can Do Differently
If you’re supporting younger executives, consider:
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Framing coaching as a strategic edge, not a remedial fix
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Building in clear, behaviour-focused goals and short wins
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Introducing assessments to build insight incrementally
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Encouraging experimentation to develop resilience
For senior leaders, focus on:
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Expanding perspective-taking
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Integrating values and meaning into leadership style
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Deepening emotional intelligence through reflective dialogue
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Offering coaching that challenges assumptions and supports transformation
Let’s Build the Future of Leadership
Whether you’re developing high-potentials or preparing seasoned executives for the next leadership leap, a tailored coaching strategy rooted in psychology delivers measurable value.
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Recovering from Burnout and Leading with Purpose: Insights from Lieutenant General John Frewen
In Episodes 13 and 14 of the Leadership and Wellbeing podcast, Lieutenant General John Frewen shares his extraordinary journey through high-stakes leadership, recovery from burnout, and the power of self-awareness. With more than 40 years of service in the Australian Defence Force (ADF), Lieutenant General Frewen brings a wealth of insight into what it takes to lead under pressure while maintaining physical and psychological health.
The Weight of Command
From leading multinational operations in Rwanda, the Solomon Islands, and Afghanistan to heading Australia’s COVID-19 vaccine rollout, Lieutenant General Frewen has carried immense responsibility. But such roles came at a cost. In Episode 13, he reflects on the personal toll that leadership can take, sharing how burnout affected his wellbeing and decision-making capacity.
Burnout, as defined by the World Health Organization, results from chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed. It manifests as exhaustion, cynicism, and a sense of reduced effectiveness – and John felt them all.
The Role of Self-Awareness in Leadership
In Episode 14, we explore how John used self-awareness to rebuild his leadership approach. He reflects on moments when his team had to intervene and tell him to slow down, prompting a deeper understanding of his limits and needs. This humility and openness to feedback became the foundation for lasting change.
John now regularly assesses his capacity and encourages his team to do the same. His commitment to creating a culture where people feel safe to speak up has enhanced not only his effectiveness but also his team’s cohesion and trust.
Trauma and Psychological Support
Throughout his career, John has championed the importance of mental health in high-stress environments. Drawing on the ADF’s model of mandatory psychological check-ins, he likens psychological support to having a personal trainer for your mind. By normalising mental health conversations, leaders can encourage early intervention and build a culture of resilience.
Rest, Recovery, and Performance
We also discuss the Effort-Recovery Model by Meijman and Mulder (1998), which emphasises the importance of rest after periods of high effort. John now prioritises daily and weekly recovery rituals—whether it’s physical exercise, sleep, or time with family – to recharge his energy and sustain high performance.
These strategies aren’t just for the military. Leaders in any sector can benefit from pausing to reflect, setting boundaries, and supporting the wellbeing of their teams.
Key Takeaways for Leaders
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Recognise Burnout Early: Learn the signs of stress and create space for recovery before it escalates.
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Foster a Culture of Support: Normalise psychological check-ins and encourage open dialogue about wellbeing.
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Lead with Humility: Seek feedback and remain open to adjusting your leadership approach.
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Build Team Resilience: Use group discussions and collective reflection to navigate challenging experiences.
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Prioritise Recovery: Balance periods of intense work with regular rituals for rest and renewal.
Why This Matters
Lieutenant General Frewen’s story is a compelling reminder that even the most experienced leaders are vulnerable to burnout. For people like Andrew aiming for board-level performance or Alex focusing on psychological safety, these insights highlight the necessity of wellbeing as a foundation for sustained leadership.
Take the Next Step
For more, tune in to Episodes 13 and 14 of the Leadership and Wellbeing podcast. Discover how to recover from burnout and lead with renewed clarity and purpose.
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